Watch over my shoulder as I create a hypnotic language pattern using key conversational hypnosis fundamentals, in this post I’ll create a language pattern and you will see exactly the formula I use to generate it. This is going to be like a cheat sheet that you can use to create your own hypnotic language patterns that is far more organized and structured than my other post How to Create Your Own Hypnotic Language Patterns. Persuasive Themes
So you are talking with someone you would like to influence about the weather, or a movie, or things you are both interested in, or whatever and you find something that you can use to start a language pattern. You want to start talking about something interesting, something that is rich with meaning and or requires imagination.
Examples of good conversational themes:
Progress
Improvement
Communication
Transformation Sales
Inspiration
Spirituality
Motivation
Attraction
Adventure
Happiness
Vacations
Exotic Places
Doing what you love
Relaxation Dreams
Poetry
Arts (dancing, singing, acting etc)
Love
Destiny
The Mind
Desire
Passion
I live in Los Angeles and there are a lot of actors here, so I’ll use that one. So lets say she’s an actress and she’s talking about how much she loves acting. So I am going to use acting as the focus of my pattern.
Transitional Phrases
Once you have your theme picked out the next thing you do is transition smoothly from the current topic to your language pattern topic, by using a transition phrase, so it sounds more natural and conversational.
Here are some examples of transitions:
It’s just like
This reminds me of
This makes me think of
Here is something else
It’s interesting you mention that because…
It sounds a lot like…
Another fascinating story is…
Now this goes right along with what you were saying…
Since we’re on that subject
We can also look it this way.
So perhaps in the acting example where I can tell she is really passionate about the art of acting I might start by saying.
I can tell you really love acting. It reminds me of…
Quotes are Your best Friend in Persuasion
I love quotes because you can get away with saying pretty much anything by saying someone else said it. I use quotes so I can separate myself from what is being said, as well as you some other persuasion strategies I’ll mention in a moments.
Here are some examples of ways to structure quotes:
My friend, sister, cousin niece, etc. was saying
This (some guy girl) was saying
A teacher of mine once said
I was watching this show the other day and the person they were interviewing said
I was having a dream the other night and this person in my dream said
I was reading an article, book, magazine and the writer/ author said
I also like to put quotes within quotes, like “I was watching a TV show and they were interviewing a man who was an expert in psychology and he was telling a story about a little boy who overcame blindness, and this little boy said…” it is easy to put quotes in quotes and when you do the conscious mind has trouble keeping up and this confusing creates a light trance state.
Now when I add quotes my pattern becomes:
I can tell you really love acting. It reminds me of article I was reading the other day, and the author was talking about acting and actors and the difference been actors and great actors. He said actors memorize their lines find a neat way to say them and then just parrot what they memorized when the camera starts to roll, but great actors he said experience acting in a totally different way.
Great actors he said memorize the lines, but they have no idea how they will deliver the line when the camera starts to roll because they are totally in the moment. You know what it’s like when you…
I cheated a little here and added another strategy that I didn’t intend to initially. I compared two things that are similar but different. Whenever you compare two things that are similar but different it forces the person to listen very closely to what you are about to say, this narrowing of focus also adds to the trance state.
Pronoun Sifts
Part of the reason for using quotes is that now you can use the I YOU shift. If you don’t remember what the I YOU shift is it is talking about something your or someone else has experienced and using your language to speak about it in the second person. So instead of saying I feel relaxed when I go on vacations say I love going on vacations, it’s like you can just leave your world behind and you can step into a place of relaxation and peace.
This is so irresistibly persuasive because the unconscious mind does not know which you you are referring to and treats it like a suggestion.
Here are some examples of I You Shifting also called Pronoun Shifting:
Hypnotic lead in are any type of phrase that requires a person to go inside and access their imagination. Any time you say something require use of the imagination the person must go into a trance.
A hypnotic lead-ins here are some examples:
Imagine yourself
Pretend that you
Think about how you
Notice yourself
Observe yourself
Let yourself
Allow yourself
Anticipate what it would be like
See yourself
Allow yourself to
Give yourself permission to
Imagine what it is like to
Realize what it is like to
Realize what it is like to
Utilize your ability
Embrace your ability
Access your ability
Expect to choose to
Decide to
Commit to
Begin to
Beginning to
Start to
Here is my example with pronoun shifts and hypnotic lead-ins:
I can tell you really love acting. It reminds me of article I was reading the other day, and the author was talking about acting and actors and the difference been actors and great actors. He said actors memorize their lines find a neat way to say them and then just parrot what they memorized when the camera starts to roll, but great actors he said experience acting in a totally different way.
Great actors he said memorize the lines, but they have no idea how they will deliver the line when the camera starts to roll because they are totally in the moment. You know what it’s like when you are on stage and…
Descriptive Language
Now the next step is one of my favorites because this is where persuasion becomes an art, using beautiful and descriptive language that creates a state. You do this by describing a state very thoroughly. If you say it with tonality that matches the state the person will go into that state.
To describe a state ask your self questions about the state you want to create ask
What triggers it?
How does it happen?
Where does it happen spatially or in the body?
How quickly does it happen?
What does it lead to next?
So when I add descriptive language to my pattern:
I can tell you really love acting. It reminds me of article I was reading the other day, and the author was talking about acting and actors and the difference been actors and great actors. He said actors memorize their lines find a neat way to say them and then just parrot what they memorized when the camera starts to roll, but great actors he said experience acting in a totally different way.
Great actors he said memorize the lines, but they have no idea how they will deliver the line when the camera starts to roll because they are totally in the moment.
You know what it’s like when you are on stage and you are in that beautiful magical moment right before you get on to perform you feel that adrenaline rush flowing all through your body . And then (snaps fingers) instantly your mind just goes to a different place, a place where you aren’t worried about what people think, you aren’t thinking about what happened yesterday, you aren’t worried about tomorrow, you just step into that magical place inside your mind…
Embedded Commands
Next come the embedded commands. If you want a quick lesson on embedded commands I just posted a video tutorial about how to use embedded commands. Remember that embedded commands work best in patterns, so try to use at least three.
Here are some examples of embedded commands.
Feel Better
Find solutions
Make progress
Achieve your goals
Do your best
Become calmer
Change
Enjoy life
Have fun
Be at peace
Feel successful
Feel good
Feel happy
Appreciate yourself
Feel stronger
Buy now
Listen to me
Believe me
Trust me
Like me
Open to me
Do it
Go for it
Here is my hypnotic language pattern example now with embedded commands.
I can tell you really love acting. It reminds me of article I was reading the other day, and the author was talking about acting and actors and the difference been actors and great actors. He said actors memorize their lines find a neat way to say them and then just parrot what they memorized when the camera starts to roll, but great actors he said experience acting in a totally different way.
Great actors he said memorize the lines, but they have no idea how they will deliver the line when the camera starts to roll because they are totally in the moment.
You know what it’s like when you are on stage and you are in that beautiful magical moment right before you get on to perform you feel that adrenaline rush flowing all through your body . And then (snaps fingers) instantly your mind just goes to a different place, a place where you aren’t worried about what people think, you aren’t thinking about what happened yesterday, you aren’t worried about tomorrow, you just step into that magical place inside your mind where you just become one with the moment to the point where you begin to feel free, just completely free.
And the more you feel free the more you feel passion the more you feel passion the more you feel that feeling of being in the moment…
Anchor the State to You Using Binder Commands
When you use your language to anchor the state you created to yourself, you will be associated with all those good feeling emotions.
Here are some examples of binder commands:
…Now…
…Right Now…
…Here…
…Now, here…
…To me…
…With me…
…And me…
…For me…
…before me…(be for me)
…Me and You…
…Like me…
So now my hypnotic language pattern is complete using persuasive themes, transitions, quotes, pronoun shifts, hypnotic lead-ins, embedded commands, descriptive language, and binder commands:
I can tell you really love acting. It reminds me of article I was reading the other day, and the author was talking about acting and actors and the difference been actors and great actors. He said actors memorize their lines find a neat way to say them and then just parrot what they memorized when the camera starts to roll, but great actors he said experience acting in a totally different way.
Great actors he said memorize the lines, but they have no idea how they will deliver the line when the camera starts to roll because they are totally in the moment.
You know what it’s like when you are on stage and you are in that beautiful magical moment right before you get on to perform you feel that adrenaline rush flowing all through your body . And then (snaps fingers) instantly your mind just goes to a different place, a place where you aren’t worried about what people think, you aren’t thinking about what happened yesterday, you aren’t worried about tomorrow, you just step into that magical place inside your mind where you just become one with the moment to the point where you begin to feel free, just completely free.
And the more you feel free the more you feel passion the more you feel passion the more you feel that feeling of being in the moment…Now with me I never had been interested in acting but I can see why people like you love it so much.
I know there are a lot of men who want to learn persuasion, conversational hypnosis for dating and seduction. I know because I get emails and comments every other day asking about how the persuasion patterns can be used for getting girls.
I have mixed emotions about teaching persuasion and dating. On one hand I know that for the most part there is nothing harmful in teaching this and when used properly it not only enhances your ability to attract the object of your desire, but it also makes her experience more exciting, pleasurable and fun for her, because you will be able to talk in a way that makes her feel things that no man has ever been able to make her feel.
When I got the hang of this and began using it in dating I quickly learned that women love a man who talks with hypnotic language. They say I love the way you talk, or the way you talk is turning me on, or wow you really know how to turn a girl on, or the way you talk is so sexy.
I don’t know if it is because women love a man who knows how to control his voice, or women love a man who talks about more deep and interesting things, or perhaps it is that a big part of it is that women want to talk about sex, they just don’t want to talk about it the same way guys do. Women seem to enjoy talking about sex in a vague and ambiguous way.
Persuasion and hypnotic language skills will allow you to become very smooth in your language so that you can flirt using hypnotic language in a way that is exactly that, you are obviously talking about attraction, sex, and desire but only using metaphors and stories.
It’s pretty freakin cool!
On the other hand, I know the down side to men using these hypnotic language patterns for attraction an even seduction is that they fall into the trap of relying only on covert hypnosis to attract women. I am sorry but that would be really lame. Unfortunately I feel like too many men who want to learn this type of persuasion fall into this category.
If covert persuasion is all you have in your dating arsenal then you are going to be in for a rude awakening. If you are insecure, have a low self esteem and or are using these patterns just to get laid it will back fire. I have seen so many guys fall into this trap who approach persuasion and dating like this and it just enhances their insecurities, and they become social weirdos.
I encourage you to use these patterns to generate attraction in a way that is with her best interests in mind. If you ever for one second feel like you need to use it in order to get a girl then I suggest you stop take a long look at yourself and do some work on yourself so that you are coming from a place of abundance rather than scarcity.
I have never needed used any of these patterns alone to get a women to like me. In fact most of the time I use them is when I already have her back at my place to enhance her sexual pleasure. Why? Because I don’t need persuasion to get laid. I take that back, I DO use persuasion to get laid, but I use persuasion only to persuade myself that I am the type of man that women would be thrilled to meet, date, and have a sexual relationship with.
When those are the thoughts that dominate your mind meeting women is easy.
I will have to write a whole other post about how to attract people sexually using vibe and energy you can start by reading my post on Psychic Influence to start, also read the Hypnotic Power of Congruence to learn how the most powerful persuasion artists are the ones who know all the persuasion skills with authenticity.
I am successful with the art of persuasion because I find the patterns fun and I love hypnotic language, and I know they make women feel good. In order to make women feel good you first though you must feel good about yourself. And as cheesy as it sounds it is a truth that I am proud to share with you. Attract women with your energy, vibe, and confidence, and when she is attracted use the language patterns to make her feel fantastic.
Let’s play a game! I am going to tell you a story that happened last night in a conversation with my friend. And I will reveal the language I used to persuade him, I won’t reveal the strategies in the post. Your job is to see if you can spot my covert persuasion strategies, some will be obvious other will be less obvious. The person who finds the most persuasion strategies wins! Hint: My persuasion skills don’t have an off button; if I am talking I am pretty much up to something.
I was talking to a friend yesterday and he said “Persuasion is B.S. Just be yourself.”
I always find it interesting when people try to persuade me to not use persuasion, because they are in that very moment contradicting themselves. Moreover, for whatever egocentric reason my friend was attempting to get me to change my extremely thought out and insightful perspective on human communication based on years of study; he was going to have to do a much job than a direct command if he wanted to persuade Bill
So I replied, “Just so we are on the same page, when you say just be yourself, which self specifically are you referring too?”
He looked at me puzzled. “What the hell are you talking about!?”
“I know that sounds odd, but when you really STOP and think about it, every person has many selves, don’t they?
There is the pure and uncorrupted self you were when you were a baby, there is the self you were when you were a teen who though he had all the secrets to the Universe, there is the self you were even five years ago who knew less about the ever changing world than the self of your today knows now, and there is even the self from the future you strive to be, the enlightened, intelligent, successful self.
I was reading psychology today and there was an article about how many psychological schools of thought proclaiming there is a multitude of mini-selves or sub-personalities that make up the individual personality or self. You have the analytical self, the anger self, the spiritual self, the lover self, even the golfer self. They say you have all these different mini-selves that make up you.
Paralleling this psychological truth is a spiritual philosophy that underneath all of these sub personalities is your true self, or soul. That is what spirituality is all about, the life long journey to find our true selves.
So again my friend I ask you, when you say Just be yourself. Which self specifically, were you referring too?
“Well, uh…” (Frustration) You are using that hypnosis stuff on me aren’t you? You’re just f*cking with my mind now.”
How do you know I am f*cking with your mind, maybe I am not? Maybe right now I am talking to your insightful self, that part of you whom understands this message on a deeper level. I wonder what would happen if after this conversation today you had a dream, a vivid dream where your intellectual self has a conversation with the self that says to me just be yourself and persuades that part of you to understand what were are talking about today.
I wonder how quickly and easily then you will realize that it is not the slick banter of a guy who calls himself Persuasion Artist, but a deep psychological truth speaking through him.
And your probably shouldn’t see yourself agreeing with me on this issue now, but only do that as naturally and easily as your find reasons on your own that allow you to see this message clearly. And as that happens you will realize underneath all these words the message is; it’s not about being yourself. It’s about being your best self. Persuasion skills allow you to be your best self, don’t they?
Quiz: What Covert Persuasion Strategies Did I Use to Persuade my Friend?
Embedded commands is obviously one of the cornerstones of conversational hypnosis. If you are new to embedded commands you might have found my article Hilary Clinton is using Covert Hypnosis a tad complex. If it was confusing no worries, I just found this video on how to use embedded commands, that will make embedded commands easier to understand. In this video tutorial this gentlemen breaks down a few examples of how embedded commands work and how along with a few good examples.
Note: I do NOT think his voice is a good example of proper tonality, however he still provide an excellent lesson on how to use embedded commands in hypnotic language, enjoy.
Here are some inspiring and insightful quotes about persuasion I have found online. These quotes are from many different types of persuasion artists, from many different time periods, from many different cultures. Consisting of persuasion artists from all over the world and from many different time periods including philosophers, sales people, hypnotists, marketers, and U.S. presidents.
“Character may almost be called the most effective means of persuasion.”
Aristotle
“The universe, they said, depended for its operation on the balance of four forces which they identified as charm, persuasion, uncertainty and bloody-mindedness.”
-Terry Pratchett
“Advertising is fundamentally persuasion and persuasion happens to be not a science, but an art.”
-William Bernbach
“Persuasion is often more effectual than force.”
-Aesop
“Not brute force but only persuasion and faith are the kings of this world.”
Thomas Carlyle
“All great lovers are articulate, and verbal seduction is the surest road to actual seduction”
-Marya Mannes
“To listen well, is as powerful a means of influence as to talk well, and is as essential to all true conversation”
-Chinese Proverb
“I have with me two gods, Persuasion and Compulsion.”
-Themistocles
“In making a speech one must study three points: first, the means of producing persuasion; second, the language; third the proper arrangement of the various parts of the speech.”
-Aristotle
“If you would persuade, you must appeal to interest rather than intellect.”
-Benjamin Franklin
“Whatever you can get a person to imagine they will perceive as their own thought, and therefore not resist it”
-Ross Jeffries
“The limits of my language are the limits of my world.”
-unknown
“Brains aren’t designed to get result; they go in directions. If you know how the brain works you can set your own directions. If you don’t, then someone else will.”
-Richard Bandler
“People will teach you how to sell them if you’ll pay attention to the messages they send you.” -Source Unknown
“The tongue can paint what the eye can’t see.”
-Chinese Proverb
” Those that will not hear must be made to feel.”
-German proverb
“If you’re not in control of yourself, how can you be in control of others?”
-Mark Cunningham
“That which we do not believe, we cannot adequately say; even though we may repeat the words ever so often.”
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Let one who wants to move and convince others, first be convinced and moved themselves. If a person speaks with genuine earnestness the thoughts, the emotion and the actual condition of their own heart, others will listen because we all are knit together by the tie of sympathy.”
-Thomas Carlyle
If you wish to win a man over to your ideas, first make him your friend.
Abraham Lincoln
“People are usually more convinced by reasons they discovered themselves than by those found out by others.”
Blaise Pascal
“When a heart is on fire, sparks always fly out of the mouth.”
-Proverb
A couple weeks ago I got an email from a reader who asked me “if covert hypnosis is as powerful a persuasion tool as you claim why don’t I see politicians running for office using it?”
Well, first of all if they were any good you wouldn’t see it, what why it’s called covert hypnosis.
But that’s still a fair question. I did a little research on the speeches of some of the 08’ presidential hopefuls to see if I could spot any covert hypnotic language patterns. After a few days of digging through Youtube and Google I found very interesting things in the way Hillary Clinton selects her language.
I observed the Senator using a covert hypnosis strategy called embedded commands.
In this post I am going to explain briefly how embedded commands work, I am going to give a few examples of embedded commands I have found in the blogosphere, then I will reveal how Senator Hillary Clinton used embedded commands in a speech and book. I will also reveal the mistakes she made in using embedded commands.
Obviously I am making a strong claim here. I hear people saying “Politicians using covert hypnotic language? No way! I am sure they just are being themselves and speaking from their heart.”
Yeah right!
Contest my claim in the comment box if you like, but whether you agree with me that she is using covert hypnosis in her speech or not, if you are interested in learning persuasion this post is still a powerful case study of covert hypnosis as well as a detailed lesson about embedded commands.
The video of her using this language pattern is in this post as well so you can see for yourself in a moment. Naturally, you will want to read this entire article first to catch it in the video and so you can understand how and why she is using this language pattern.
By the time you are done reading this article you, like me, will also become aware that covert hypnosis is used my politicians.
Embedded commands, also called embedded suggestion, are hidden suggestions and commands woven into a sentence or paragraph. It works kinda like subliminal messages. Here is an example taken from my article How to Create Your Own Covert Hypnotic Language Patterns:
“…underneath all of (those powerful emotions) you are just having fun, and this causes you to begin feeling really good. With me it’s a little different, I really have to get to know a person first and then feel really and comfortable around them.”
FEEL REALY GOOD WITH ME is the embedded command.
Embedded commands work very powerfully in persuasion because you are persuading you are not communicating only with the conscious mind of a person, in fact you are mostly communicating with the unconscious mind. Hypnotic languages such as embedded commands lead the unconscious mind.
Just like the little pieces of bread lead Hansel and Gretel to the candy house, embedded commands lead a person to the action you want to persuade someone to do or emotion you want someone to feel.
The embedded command I caught hidden in Hillary Clinton’s language was YOU LIKE ME.
The YOU LIKE ME command is another way to use embedded commands that I have not shared on this blog yet, so lets take a look at a few examples of the way it is used properly before we look at how Hillary used it because she made a couple errors. Here is an exert from a seminar book my Richard Bandler the creator of NLP using this pattern in a sentence.
“Now this is my basic sales program: Induce good feeling; attach it to product. Or very importantly, you can also induce it and attach it to yourself, because you are a part of this, especially if it is a service, because you, like me, want the best for yourself. You like me want the best for yourself. Now this is a language pattern and we are going to get into those. They’re fun.” (Bandler and La Valle, 1996, p 39-40)
What Bandler did in the above example was frame the language by putting the YOU, before the LIKE ME in a way that makes sense conversationally. He did this by saying a sentence with “you, like me” in it and then explains how you are alike so the conscious mind is satisfied, but the unconscious hears the embedded command YOU LIKE ME
YOU LIKE ME as an embedded commands works because is has two possible meanings, it can be used meaning you like me as a person, or you have an attribute that is like me so you are like me. Psychologically this suggestion works because the unconscious cannot distinguish which LIKE it is and processes both.
Here is one of the ways I use this persuasion strategy is my sales:
“I really enjoy a product that has XYZ feature. I also know that YOU, LIKE ME, and so many of my other customers also appreciate this type of feature in a product.”
Here is another example I came by on a UK blog called Call Centre Helper that trains customer service associates to use NLP in customer service:
“One of our team leaders took over a call from a customer who was particularly angry. They took the time to listen carefully to the caller in full before answering: “We, like you, want to get this matter resolved for you as soon as possible”. They also said: “You, like me, probably get frustrated when things are not delivered on time.
The team leader quickly calmed the caller down. What the caller was not necessarily aware of consciously was that they liked the team leader and that the team leader liked them, simply because they had been told as much.” – From article Making NLP Work in your Call Centre
…here’s an example that could be used for seduction, its one that I’ve been thinking about using and I just haven’t gotten around to testing.. Say your meeting a girl (or guy for that matter) and you’ve got decent rapport, for example your either just meeting them or one of you is leaving.. Where a handshake might have been appropriate here’s what you could do…
Reach out your hand, before your hands connect pull your hand back and gently hold on to their hand with your other hand, look into their eyes and say “I bet YOU LIKE ME think its a bit awkward shaking hands like this, come here and give me a hug”, open up both hands, inviting them to come forward and hug you, do this with warmth and empathy and its highly unlikely they won’t come forward… exerted from the article The Psychology of Hypnotic Pattern Interrupts
Obviously there are many ways to use the YOU LIKE ME embedded command. Here are the ways I have noticed Senator Hillary Clinton using this language pattern one of her speeches and in her book:
“There’s an old saying I love: You can’t roll up your sleeves and get to work if you’re still wringing your hands. So if you, like me, are worrying about our kids; if you, like me, have wondered how we can match our actions to our words, I’d like to share with you some of the convictions I’ve developed over a lifetime”-It Takes Village by Hillary Clinton
And finally here is the way that Hillary Clinton opened one of her speeches; “I know that many of you, like me… were disappointed by recent remarks that he made.”
If you are thinking, oh I am sure that is juts her natural way of speaking and writing. Maybe, but I doubt it. The words a politician’s use can make or break them in moments,
Because of this millions of dollars is invested into consultants to make sure they are wearing the right color, have the right haircut, and to strategically selected the right words of their speeches. It is all carefully prepared and planned.
So it is possible that Hillary did not know she was using covert hypnosis in her speech, and she just delivered it the way she was instructed by her speech writer speech consultant?
Possibly, but if that’s the case Hillary’s consultants should pay extra close attention here, because here are the mistakes I think Hillary made in her use of the YOU LIKE ME commands.
Covert Hypnosis Mistake #1: She had no rapport with the audience.
I personally think it is a waste of breath using hypnotic language in a speech or in any persuasion arena in the first few sentences. You need to gain rapport in those first few moments, and if you can’t get rapport try a persuasion strategy other than embedded commands and language patterns.
Hillary used the YOU LIKE ME language pattern with in her first couple words. Like most persuasion skills, if you have no rapport it will not work and the people will reject you much in the way the audience obviously rejected her.
One of the strangest things in persuasion I have noticed is if you don’t have rapport and you use language pattern you will sound manipulative, but if you have good rapport you can use them blatantly and obviously and they will still be effective.
Covert Hypnosis Mistake #2: She used the pattern only once.
We call a hypnotic language pattern a pattern because they only work when used multiple times. Hillary used the pattern only once in the Video. In all fairness to her, perhaps she would have made it a pattern if she was allowed to finish her statement before the audience stopped her. And she did use the pattern twice in the same paragraph in her book, but I aim for the same commands at least three times in my persuasion.
Covert Hypnosis Mistake #3: She Isn’t Congruent.
In order for persuasion to be effective, your words must match your overall energy. I wrote all about it in my article, The Hypnotic Power of Congruence. People are smart and they pick up on this lack of authenticity easily.
In sales you should never sound like a salesman, you should sound like someone who cares about helping a person who needs your product solution. If you are a man persuading a woman, you should never sound like a guy trying to pick up chicks. Naturally if you are a politician, you should never sound like a politician. When Hillary speaks I feel like I am watching a politician.
Congruence always sounds like authenticity, passion, compassion, and conviction behind your words. I didn’t feel that from Hillary in this speech or any speech of hers. When she said you, like me I sure as hell feel didn’t feel like her because there was no emotion of likeness behind her words.
In my humble opinion this is where Barack Obama really had an edge over her. People say Obama is charismatic or speaks with such passion, what they are talking about is his congruence. Powerful congruence can me more hypnotic than any clever language pattern.
Years ago I heard an old motivational speaker say the following:
“With persuasion, your words matter not, it only matters where those words come from. People will pick up on your energy at an unconscious level. They will be drawn to you or ignore you based on what they pick up from you intuitively.”
That was one of the first times I heard “energy and persuasion” used in the same paragraph. Using your energy to persuade is an unusual new form of persuasion practiced by many persuasion artists.
I used to be good friends with a world famous persuasion guru. I won’t reveal his name but if you have been studying NLP with seduction specifically for more than five minutes you have definitely heard of him. He has students in pretty much very major city in the world, he has an impressive level of persuasion home study courses from beginner level to advanced, and he has been teaching persuasion seminars around the planet for the past 20 years.
I remmeber the first night we went out to meet women at a local bar. We were at his house getting ready to go. I was very excited to see my persuasion idol in action for the first time. We were about to walk out the door when I noticed him doing some strange exercise I had never seen before. He was moving his body like he was doing some kind of yoga stance and he was focusing on his breathing very intently.
“What are you doing?” I asked.
“I am influencing my energy, so that I meet the right people tonight.”
“How?” I asked.
“I do this visualization and breathing exercise” he said. “So when I go into the bar, I will be able to get in rapport with the women I want to meet before I even open my mouth.”
I was like, uh, yeah… okay whatever dude, let’s go.
He looked at me and smiled the confident smile you see only on someone who knows a big secret you don’t.
Persuasion and Energy
Because I was going out with one of the world’s greatest persuasion artists on the planet I was expecting to see him explode into a flurry of powerful advanced hypnotic language patterns.
To my surprise I didn’t see my friend didn’t even use one hypnotic language pattern. But for whatever mysterious reason, people were drawn to him like a magnet. It seemed like me made friends with all the cool people at the bar. We would just be talking at the bar and women would approach him, guys were even buy him drinks. We had a great time.
I thought of what be said about influencing his energy and gaining rapport before even opening his mouth on our way to the bar. I was curious I wanted to know more.
I asked him how I could do that too, he said “Bill start meditating, and you will become more sensitive to the energy of others. Once you are able to sense the vibe of other people you will not have to worry about what to say to influence others you will use your intuition to influence others.”
I didn’t know exactly what he meant, but he gave me a meditation exercise I began practicing daily.
After a few months of doing this meditation, I noticed in my sales career I was improving. I was more centered and balanced in my persuasion, I was not an effected by peoples’ objections, getting rapport with others was a snap, I was more charismatic, and I was able to use the language patterns naturally and easily.
The further I walked down this path of persuasion and energy the more I noticed strange things began to happen.
I started getting intuitions about people; not cheesy fortune teller intuitive, but more like really strong gut feelings about people. I could just really pick up on things in people, and when I got in rapport with people my intuition as even more powerful.
It was great in my sales career because I knew which prospects to spend more time with based on their energy, and which prospects to avoid. I was even able to sense personal things about a person.
The more I continued on this path, the more I got these powerful gut feelings or intuitions.
Introduction to Psychic Influence
One day I was watching a video, by another famous persuasion guru and I picked up on something intuitively that he did in the video similar to what my friend was doing. I couldn’t explain it with words, but I could tell he did something unique with his energy in that video to attract clients.
I asked him about it in an email.
He was impressed that I could pick up on what he was doing.
He told me that behind some of the most successful and powerful persuaders is a very strong spiritual life. He then went on to recommend ten books to me. None of which had anything to do with persuasion! They were all ritual magick books!
The common thread of all these books was it is possible to persuade others beyond the power of your words, or psychic influence.
Here this guy is, possibly one of the greatest persuasion teachers of all time and he is revealing to me that he uses spiritual and magickal methods like intention, energy, and chakras manipulation to persuade others.
I was shocked. Up until that point my only experience of this psychic influence material was limited to my friend the other persuasion guru. Seems there are more people in on this energy persuasion than I thought.
A few months ago I was at work and I received a phone call from Pedro one of the other sales people in my company.
“Tell me about the golden bubble!” he said.
Evidently word got out that I was using these mental exercises to increase my sales.
I explained “What I do is I imagine the person I want to gain rapport with in a golden, warm bubble, filled with positive energy and love and connection. ”
Silence…
Intuitively I could tell, I threw Pedro off, and I needed to break it down a bit more.
I went on to tell him “Look, psychology tells us that communication is more than 90% nonverbal, so if that’s true, we are communicating with people on deeper levels than just words. There are cultures around the world that have known this long before our western scientist have. So when I imagine blasting them with warm positive thoughts I believe they pick up on it at an unconscious level, and their unconscious mind warms up to me, and the result is we are in rapport. Is something mystical going on, or is it just a constructive hallucination that puts me in the right state I need to be in to gain rapport with a person? I haven’t a clue as to exactly how it works. I just know it works.”
Psychic Influence vs Persuasion
I am always hesitant to reveal this side of myself on this blog, and you probably can see why. Psychic influence and energy persuasion is not the stuff you learn in persuasion 101 like language patterns, embedded commands, anchoring etc.
Energy persuasion has more to do with your state, management of your mental images, your intention and your will.
It is more about persuading yourself than persuading someone else.
I think this is what people who say; just be yourself, or just be authentic are intuitively picking up on. Those people would agree with the old motivational speaker that says your energy is more important than your words, but I believe those people along with the motivational speaker of that book are still missing something of great value.
No matter what you do with your energy if you just stand at stare at someone silently, you are not influencing them. You at least need to know how to ask for the sale, or you at least need to know how to ask a woman out.
Energy alone doesn’t work.
That being said I personally know many persuasion artists who have been to all the persuasion seminars, have all the persuasion home study courses, have read every book on NLP, and know all the cool language patterns but they can’t persuade themselves out of a paper bag.
Fancy smancy covert language patterns and covert hypnosis strategies alone don’t work either.
My philosophy is to combine both approaches. Learn all you can about how to persuasion, but also learn all you can about how to radiate an energy influences others.
The combination will be so powerful people around you will think you have supernatural persuasion powers.
The Golden Bubble
Here is the method I learned from my old persuasion mentor to gain rapport using energy:
1. Imagine two balls of light on the floor about the size of two hula-hoops.
2. Walk into the first ball of light, and imagine your agenda is clearing from you completely, say silently to your self “unconditional love” The purpose of this is to communicate to them unconsciously that you are not attached to the outcome and they are totally free with you.
3. Imagine that in the second ball of light is a life size image of them. Walk into that image as if you are trying on their body. Feel what it feels like to feel their hair style, be their body shape, be their gender if they are opposite your own, and feel what its like to have their hair style. See if you can imagine what it must be like to be them. If they are a prospect, feel what it feels like to be your customer. If they are a women you want to date, feel what it feels like to be the object of your attraction. Next say to yourself “compassion”
4. Imagine creating another energy ball make it pink, orange, or golden light, warm colors work best. In your mind charge this energy ball with warm feelings. Fill it with the feeling of being with your best friend, or being with a baby, whatever works best for you. Then imagine surrounding that person with this colorful ball of positive warm emotions.
It seems like a lot of steps on paper, but with a little practice you will be able to do this process in seconds. And as you do it more and more you will be amazed at how people respond positively to you. Using this I can quickly and easily get in rapport with almost anyone I want.
Also know that the exercise above is not rules set in stone, customize it to a way that works best for you. The most important thing is that you set your agenda aside, step in their shoes, and send them positive thoughts.
I know some people will read this post and say this sounds like a bunch of crap.
Well, I can’t prove that psychic influence exists without looking silly, but I can prove that if you do this exercise you will get in rapport with more people, I promise.
For if nothing else, this is a great way to manage your internal state which is the key to persuasion mastery, read more about this in my post The 7 Inner Laws of Persuasion.
Whether psychic influence is real or not, when you are balanced on the inside, filled with compassion, and looking out for a persons best interests, and unattached to the outcome people will pick up on it. You will be able to gain rapport with others so quickly and easily that it certainly will seem like magic.
A Deceptively Simple Meditation
Here is the meditation my friend taught me. I call it deceptively simple, because I never would have suspected that such a simple mediation would net me such positive results. Anyway here is the video, enjoy. -Bill
I have been getting some emails and blog comments inquiring on how to use embedded commands with persuasion. The next post I am working on is going to give some more info on how to use embedded commands effectively in persuasion. Hopefully this will all be ready by tomorrow. I also found a really good video on how to use embedded commands, I will also share.
Also, I am going to reveal which Presidential hopeful I believe made a poor attempt at using embedded commands in a speech, how they were using it, and where they screwed up?
A very big P.S. I will do my best to use discretion in this post as the big three things people get very sensitive about in conversation are religion, politics, or sex. Let me say I study persuasion not politics, and this is not a political blog. I do not want to make that post a political debate. I don’t care who you vote for or what party you belong too. If you are offended by my blog post about politics and covert hypnosis, then I’ll say in advance sorry no mean to offend you. If you choose to unsubscribe Godspeed.
Otherwise, get ready for a fascinating post on embedded commands tomorrow.
I got the inspiration for that while reading a post about a blogger who crashed and burned trying to use covert hypnosis via binder commands, state elicitation, embedded commands, and descriptive language to pick up a woman at a night club. Here is a snippet of their conversation:
Me: “Isn’t it funny how music can sometimes evoke those warm and pleasant feelings inside you that just make you happy to be here… with me, that’s how it works, how about you?” Her: “What?” Me: (louder): “Khm… Isn’t it funny how music can sometimes evoke those warm and pleasant feelings inside you that just make you happy to be here… with me, that’s how it works, how about you?” Her: (a bit confused and after a short silence): “Yeah, it really depends on what drugs you’re on, dude.” She laughed and left to find her friends.
Obviously that did not go so well, but I give him credit for trying. Read the whole article Covert Hypnosis Dynamics Examples if you wanna know the story and read the comment I left to helping him with a different approach to the same strategy.
In my upcoming post about how to not use covert hypnosis I’ll expand on the comment, and show some ways how to make this type of persuasion more smooth and effective, so that it is natural and compelling rather than eerie and creepy.
…I wanted to ask you …do you have a plan when you use them, or how you become so skilled in using them ? Any tips on how I can improve and become better at things you present here ?- M!hai
I replied by giving him some quick ideas for practicing and studying so that the hypnotic language patterns become natural and even second nature, so that using hypnotic language conversationally is automatic.
You can read my response to his comment at the bottom of that post. A blog post that will help people practice, and get better at the persuasion skills here at Persuasion Artist is in the works.
Hello, my name is Bill "Persuasion Artist" Alexander. I am an avid student of persuasion and Influence.
I have a strong fascination for the mind, and I am passionate about the words, actions, and energies that influence the minds of others.
This is a blog of my insights on capturing and leading the imaginations of others using psychology, hypnosis, NLP, suggestion, and subconscious communication. I’ve been called a genius and I’ve been called dangerous.
All powerful forces can be used for good or evil. I encourage my readers to use these strategies for good and not in a harmful and manipulative way. Please see my Warning for more on ethics and persuasion.
Keep an open mind, feel free to ask me anything, I respond to all comments quickly, and I encourage and welcome intelligent discussion and debate. The content here is all free, so enjoy.
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photo credit: Day 57 - On the Nature of Language
Hint: My persuasion skills don’t have an off button; if I am talking I am pretty much up to something.
A couple weeks ago I got an email from a reader who asked me “if covert hypnosis is as powerful a persuasion tool as you claim why don’t I see politicians running for office using it?”
Years ago I heard an old motivational speaker say the following:
